Shut Up, Narrative!

You should do more exercise.
You should finish that project at work like…yesterday.
You should make more time for your friends.
You should go to bed earlier.
You should read the Bible more.

Should, must, have to.
Isn’t that the narrative constantly playing in our minds?
It pushes us to impossible heights sometimes, but mostly it drives us crazy.
It eats us away.
It kills the life we are supposed to live.

So let’s stop for a moment and dig a little deeper.
Why should we do all these things? And why do we give in to the “shoulds” so often?
Because we think we need more money.
Because we think the world will stop turning the moment we lay our hands down.
Because we think that we can rest later.
Because we think that we are what we do.
Because we think that God expects a special routine.

We think and think, and slowly by slowly these thoughts become beliefs.
Beliefs about ourselves, God and the world.

If we give ourselves permission and rest for a while, we might hear a different narrative, softly whispered into our hearts.

Hey, I’m so glad you’re here.
Why don’t you sit down and relax?
The world will continue turning, I got this in my hands. Literally.
You won’t be able to just drop everything, but you are free to choose.
Do the things that are beneficial to you. In body, mind and spirit.
Or do nothing at all sometimes because you are who you are.
And that’s enough.


Writing for Five Minute Friday today.

Author: Katha von Dessien

Teacher. Believer. Third Culture Kid. World Traveler. People Lover. Writer.

12 thoughts on “Shut Up, Narrative!”

  1. I love how reframing the narrative can help us make so much more sense of our existence… and I felt everything unclench as you delivered that last paragraph – true peace and comfort can only be found in that space…

    1. I feel the same way! When I start writing, I often don’t know how where I’ll end up. And then it often happens that I come back to the same narrative with a changed perspective.
      Thanks for reading along! Hope you’re doing well!

  2. Beautiful! Yes this: “If we give ourselves permission and rest for a while, we might hear a different narrative, softly whispered into our hearts.” I’m over in the 30 spot this week.

  3. Well said, well written, Katha. So glad that God tells us: “The world will continue turning, I got this in my hands. Literally.” From #18 at FMF today.

  4. This is my exact post. How the shoulds have us believing the world will stop if we stop. My favorite line was: Because we think that we are what we do.
    Happy to be your neighbor #7 on this FMF.

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