[Five Minute Friday] Open

My life is like a prison sometimes. I feel trapped in my day-to-day routine. I just function, but true life has left me. 
My mind is like a prison sometimes. I mull the same thoughts and questions over and over, but there’s no answer that makes the spinning stop. 
My soul is like a prison sometimes. Worries and fear of the unknown creep up and won’t let me sleep. The more I worry the bigger these forces become and tear me apart.

It’s so easy to become closed off. 
Stuck in my own doings and pereceptions and worries. 
Hidden from the world and other people. 

How can you be a door opener
for other people?

But there is a door. 
Only recently when I reflected upon this busy, busy year I had with final exams and studying 24-7, without any time for friends but a lot to worry about – only then did I realize I had a few doors along the way.
Or rather, door openers. 

People like J.
Whenever I felt overwhelmed with questions and deadlines and my own emotions, there was J. 
We would cook together or have coffee and she would listen. 
And then speak firm and encouraging words. 
She listened to my questions and pointed me towards answers.
She opened my perspective for more. 
She restored a bit of hope where I had lost it.

J is a door opener. 

Interesting enough, this year roles are reversed. 
She’s stuck with exams and drowning in books. 
She is overwhelmed with questions about the future. 
She might also feel like in prison sometimes. 
The other day we had lunch and talked a bit how much I appreciated her role in my life. And then she said, “but don’t you know that you’re my J?”

This touched something inside of me because that’s who I want to be.
I want to be someone’s J. 
A friend who shares life with you. 
A listener. 
An encourager. 
A thinker. 
A “sit still and wait” person. 
A perspective changer. 
A hope restorer. 
A door opener. 

*Yes, there were other people in the last year, too, and I can’t thank them enough for being Js in my life! If you’re reading this, please know how much I appreciate you!


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Author: Katha von Dessien

Teacher. Believer in the Wilderness. Third Culture Kid. World Traveler. People and Food at the Table Lover. Writer.

7 thoughts on “[Five Minute Friday] Open”

  1. i enjoyed your post today katha:) i have enjoyed being a j in the lives of some people over the years…and having J's in my life too! they are wonderful gifts who encourage and point us to jesus when we start to flounder. blessings as you start a new phase of life:)

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